Kabir Singh sure created a negative hype soon after its release. People couldn’t adjust to an extremist lover and his portrayal in the movie. ‘It’s not what we want our children to learn, and practise!’ is all we heard during this criticism. Furthermore, it called for a lot of mishaps, suicides and other relating behaviours, which people claimed Kabir Singh for. But, do movies like Kabir Singh really influence young minds?
Kabir Singh isn’t the first of its kinds. Bollywood movies like Darar, Darr, and Ranjhana were on similar lines, and somehow, they didn’t evoke this much response. Who can forget Shah Rukh Khan’s iconic line ‘I love you kkkkkk… kiran’? With changing generations, the essence and expression of love have changed.
While we at Love Smitten believe that this is a smart generation and that influence should work both ways-positive and negative. Why don’t good movies like Kesari and Article 15 influence this generation? Why aren’t parents influenced by movies like Taare Zameen Par and 3 Idiots, so that children stop committing suicide under pressure? Did no one see, how the movie did not endorse Kabir Singh’s rage but showed a transformation in character by the end? Was what Sonam Kapoor’s character did with Dhanush in Ranjhana not worthy of objection?
But, this doesn’t mean we support what Kabir Singh did. We only choose to pick out the positives!
We didn’t want this to be a ‘one person’ opinion, and we spoke to a few young adults and psychology practitioners and counsellors to hear the ‘actual’ point of view. This is possibly one way to quieten just the news and episodes, and hear what the ‘public’ think about such movies.
What the Youth says:
Ideator Rushi Naik who works with an event management company is a young adult himself. He somehow agrees to Love Smitten’s point of view. Rushi says,
“It is very important that people of my generation understand that we shouldn’t play with other’s feelings. While Shahid Kapoor’s acting was sheer brilliance, it could have disturbed some mentally. Our generation is an independant one. We take our own decisions, and are proud of them mostly. We need to give our careers utmost importance, and then our relationships. All of us can avoid such movies if it disturbs us, be strong enough to know what is right and wrong. Then you can filter out only the positives, and not let the negatives influence us.”
Youth icon and several times awardee Krunal Shah has a completely different point of view. Here’s what he has to say:
“In my view most of the time the effect is negative. The movies right now show more negative features like violence, cheating , addiction than the positive sides. And the youth who consider that actor or actresses as an idol or role model blindly follow them and argue that ‘if they can why not us’. They consider the aspects shown in the movie as CURRENT TRENDS but they forget that the story is totally fictitious and has no resemblance to real life. Positive aspects of movie are short lived. Very few youth act smartly and take something positive home and act rightly; the rest of the others are blind followers.”
What psychology counselors have to say:
The counselors of our country agree with one another and claim that such movies can no good for the hailing generation. Times have changed, and so has everyone’s point of view!
Counselling Psychologist, Khushali Adhiya doesn’t approve of the effects that such movies cause; she says,
I see and record, through my work, that Such films, directly and subliminally (implicitly) encourage the youth, more specifically, to construe their idea of love based on the plot of the film. What viewers fail to account for is that the reality is based on many more factors, in comparison to the few factors that are accounted for (and controlled) on screens. What viewers also fail to acknowledge is that the real world consequences of such actions may not match the ending of the film. Directors and producers may have other intentions, however, viewers interpret films in their own ways and such risks aren’t healthy for our society.
I urge and encourage our young viewers to enjoy films as entertainment mediums and discuss about what they perceived with their friends and elders – dispute the display of some behaviours, receive the opinions of others on such behaviours, pause on the practical consequences of modelling such behaviours and aim at a “live and let live” policy when it comes to their relationships.
- Similarly, Counselling Psychologist, Expressive Arts-based therapist, and Parenting Expert, Aastha Ahuja reveals that these movies are surely not the way to go forward.
Bollywood is essentialy every teenagers dream land. And we supposedly call our actors our heroes. Then why would we not imitate our heroes? Why wouldn’t a kid make these actors their role models.
I completely agree with the fact that what you see, you become. Especially kids. In an experiment with three groups, we showed a violent game to one group, a normal game to the second and nothing to the third group. They reacted in the same lines. Group one hit one another and broke things. The second group remained calm and busy. While the third group showed more social, creative and interactive skills. This is a clear experiment of what kids see, kids learn. You use phone, your kids wants a phone. You abuse,Your kid abuses You are violent, your kids become violent.
Final Word on such Movies
The word in the house is that such movies do cause a negative impact on the youth.
The existence of true love has become rare over time. We are a lot more practical today, and why not? This generation next is independent with high goals. But, it wouldn’t be wrong to say that overexposure is not leading them in the right direction. Each to its own; we believe that the youth should keep the essence of right and wrong, and not let entertainment sway them. On the other hand, maybe filmmakers can realize that such aspects hamper young minds, and avoiding them wouldn’t take away much from their movies.
Let’s all cross a two-way bridge here; what say?